Learn to speak the 5 love languages

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Everyone has experienced love at first sight and a painful breakup a few months later because the love in the relationship suddenly disappeared. We all want our relationships to last for years. It should be noted that many of us initially did not believe the book, but everyone found something interesting in it.

Gary Champan is an American anthropologist , working as a marriage counselor. He claims that love is a decision . Of course, one can agree that relationships require patience, care and understanding. The most common problem is that couples simply do not understand each other - in Chapman's words, they do not speak the same love language , that is, they express their feelings in a way that the other person does not perceive.

The 5 love languages ​​that people speak
There are a total of 5 languages ​​in which we express our feelings. No one speaks only one, on the contrary, we speak 2 or more, just with different priorities. At AITOM, we agree that love languages ​​can change over time or circumstances .

Radek described such a typical misunderstanding. You can certainly relate business owner database to his situation: his wife got sick and he wanted to help her. He cooked, looked after the children, he simply took care of everything. But later his wife reproached him for not paying attention to her. Her love language during her illness was attention.



1st love language: words of reassurance
If you speak this love language, you need to hear it. You want to be reassured of your feelings, but you also need to be praised. Words like I love you, you look good , and others mean more to you than actions.

On the contrary, you are very hurt by criticism or insulting statements like: " See, I said you can't park" or "You're just like your mother."

“ One dialect of the language of reassurance is ‘words of encouragement.’ We all have our hidden places where we feel insecure. We lack courage, and the lack of it often prevents us from carrying out our plans ,” Chapman writes. “ Encouragement requires the ability to empathize and see the world from the perspective of our partner .”